The Empath Community and I

About four years ago I was looking up the word Empath, hoping to find a place where I could meet other people like myself.  I did that periodically over the years I’ve been online…usually to no avail.  But this time I came across a place called Empath Community.


It’s owner embraced me, as did it’s members.  And after sometime, it felt like a second home and my connection with those people much like a close nit family.  We laughed together.  We cried together.  And we learned with one another through study and sharing.  Even now, years later, each and every one of those people, from owner to lurkers, still mean a great deal to me for what each of them, in turn, offered to me by way of friendship, compassion, understanding and friendship.  They were my teachers and my guides along the road of self discovery that I walked.  And quite a few of them were the inspiration for many of the blogs on EP.


I became a moderator of this forum site, not to long after I joined.  And soon after that, I began to write the many blogs here on Empathic Perspectives, though at the time it was a group on Empath Community instead of a blog site.  As I grew in that position, of moderator, I began to steadily work with more and more of the people who came onto that site with question after question.


While there in the capacity of moderator, I witnessed fights amongst members, flame wars, heated religious debates, people attempting to play messiah to all of the wounded folk who came to EC, spammers, witch hunts, horrid apathy and ultimately, to many other negative things to mention in one blog.  I also witnessed compassion, like I’d never seen before, deep abiding friendships forged out of common interests and needs, and so much love, that it would either rot your teeth (for being so damn sweet) or it would melt your heart because it was so warm and welcoming.  More than once in my years on that site, did I find myself in tears, awestruck by the amazing energy that encompassed the site and it’s many members.


In the background of all that was happening on the site, I was stretching myself thin emotionally…ultimately to my breaking point.  Each new menace on the site took it’s toll on me.  Sometimes I felt like I was drowning in the needs of so many and I wanted so very much to help each and every person.  But it took emotional exhaustion for me to realize that I couldn’t be all things to all people and still remain true to who I am.


About a year later, after witnessing much deterioration on Empath Community within it’s chat room, I again took the job of moderator.  I did it to bring some order back to the site and to give people some peace of mind.  This meant, to some degree, that I had to be a hard ass, which left some members asking me, where was the old Misu who seemed to give without reserve, because she didn’t exist anymore.  Of course, I had no real answer for them except to say I had grown and changed.  And that I was important to me, as well as, all of those members seeking help.


The journey this blog is taking you on  has now come to a time that is very recent, very close to the present, where I found myself once again suffering from emotional exhaustion and burnout.  Doing the moderator thing was like going through the motions most of the time.  But after all of those years of caring for this forum site and deep friendship (or so I thought) with it’s owner, I was summarily dismissed as a moderator with comments like my judgment was impaired.  Accusations were laid to bear, as well, and judgments made, despite what I said or how honest I was.  And because of this very traumatic incident, I broke down.


Now any reasonable person might ask how one can break down from stuff that happened on a forum site.  And that would be a fair question.  But anyone who has dedicated their time, willingly without expectation, to something they love and/or are passionate about, will tell you the same.  You become emotionally invested in that experience.  It is, in a way, an extension of you.


As things began to escalate on the site, I was banned.  And then I was brought back with the offer of owning Empath Community, with the stipulation that I would have to endure public humiliation on the same site I was being offered.  Upon my refusal and the establishment of new moderators on site, I was again banned from site, being told only that I was no a good fit for Empath Community.(the irony of this never ceases to make me laugh)


So from that time to now, I have been, for the most part, unable to write while I was nursing my broken heart and healing.  But I getting better now and I feel more apt to be able to write.  I also feel it necessary to say, that despite what happens publicly or privately, we (the writers of EP) will keep learning, growing, and sharing our many different perspectives with each and every one of you.



~ by Misuchi Sakurai on July 8, 2011.

5 Responses to “The Empath Community and I”

  1. Hi Misu,

    I too have joined EC and am finding that, there are a lot of mentally ill people on the site. Being somewhat knowing of myself I know this is not good for me or likely the other members some of whom are very young. I have encountered MPD’s more than one, messiahs as you referred to them and religious nutcase healers. Not to mention frustrated people dealing with many people. It is too bad there are not more resources on the site to actually help people. I’ve also sensed there a bunch of wanna be superhero types who speak of “abilities” I have myself been asked more than once, so what are your abilities?

    Email me if you wish

    Thanks for your web journal. (hate the word “blog”) sounds like something a pet coughed up. LOL

  2. Hi Misu
    It is nice to know that you are still spreading your Light in this world. The empath quiz that you put together for the EC is still featured at the “Library of Inspiration”. I am glad to see that you have taken time to take care of yourself. As Rodney Dangerfield used to say,”Take care of #1 and you’ll stay out of #2″ LOL We can only do so much to help others. Stay well and know that you are loved.
    Throw some love into the wind.

  3. Hi there, i just wanted to take the time to say that stumbling across this web space was a nice accident for me. its comforting to know there are others out there who have the same experiences 🙂

    • I’m glad you don’t feel so alone anymore. It can be a real struggle to go it alone. 🙂

  4. Keep your head up, because everything happens for a reason. There are situations that happen to all of us that cause us to reflect on who we are and why certain things happen. We just need to understand that each struggle is a test of our inner strength and self worth. From reading this blog post, you seem highly intelligent and very passionate about what you do. That alone should make you smile, because it brings a smile upon my face. Keep sharing your stories, because it will be of knowledge for those in need of advice. Remember, the best thing about an empath is their strong will to empathize.

    I am always here if need be.

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